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"Eight Down, an eternity to go! I love you and miss you. Five thousand miles can't keep us apart forever! -Love, Michael"
Those were the words on the card on my roses today. It was so nice to get them. Normally I wouldn't have been home to receive them so I was so happy that I was home at that time today. They were a nice surprise and made me happy to think my husband cares enough to order roses from Afghanistan for me to receive on the day of our anniversary.
He had left a card for me to open and it was sweet describing his "favorite place in all the world is next to me" going on to say that even though it's another anniversary apart, he still feels closer to me than ever. That was great to read but it meant so much to get the flowers because I knew it was recently written. It made us feel closer, more connected.
So many times I think people pity me because it is so hard handling life on my own here. It certainly is hard to manage three kids, two dogs, and a house with no family around (although great friends). But, it's not about how hard life is without him, it's about how I miss him and want him home with me.
I have learned that Michael and I do a great job of challenging each other intellectually and even though we differ on the thought process to our opinions, our opinions are often in alignment - and that's saying alot because we have some pretty strong opinions on some often left alone topics. In fact, often times we find ourselves in battle over our strong opinions based on the assumption that we are going to differ - some of this is because our individual thought processes to get to the final opinion are in two different hemispheres - but in the end we have opened the other up to a whole new perspective on an issue that we agree upon.
I miss this about our relationship, even though on occasion it can be painful. Michael and I are both such strong personalities, very competitive, very opinionated, and used to being in control (both the oldest children by many years) so our relationship has some very, very challenging moments, but we find that we end up stronger individually and together after fighting through our battles. I'm sure many of you that are married out there would agree based on your own experiences.
And more than anything else, I miss the person that I can be completely comfortable with debating any topics, specifically controversial topics. We both know that even if either of us is "politically incorrect" we will still be loved in the end. Or even if one of us is a bit too emotional or perhaps selfish or prideful or maybe even judgemental, we know we will be loved in the end - even if some correction (hopefully gentle) is involved.
I didn't mean to write that much, but perhaps it's my way of paying tribute to my marriage covenant. Marriage is not easy, it's exponentially harder than I ever imagined it would be, but it certainly has made me understand better who God designed me to be and brought me closer to the Lord. I'm looking forward to Michael's homecoming...
He had left a card for me to open and it was sweet describing his "favorite place in all the world is next to me" going on to say that even though it's another anniversary apart, he still feels closer to me than ever. That was great to read but it meant so much to get the flowers because I knew it was recently written. It made us feel closer, more connected.
So many times I think people pity me because it is so hard handling life on my own here. It certainly is hard to manage three kids, two dogs, and a house with no family around (although great friends). But, it's not about how hard life is without him, it's about how I miss him and want him home with me.
I have learned that Michael and I do a great job of challenging each other intellectually and even though we differ on the thought process to our opinions, our opinions are often in alignment - and that's saying alot because we have some pretty strong opinions on some often left alone topics. In fact, often times we find ourselves in battle over our strong opinions based on the assumption that we are going to differ - some of this is because our individual thought processes to get to the final opinion are in two different hemispheres - but in the end we have opened the other up to a whole new perspective on an issue that we agree upon.
I miss this about our relationship, even though on occasion it can be painful. Michael and I are both such strong personalities, very competitive, very opinionated, and used to being in control (both the oldest children by many years) so our relationship has some very, very challenging moments, but we find that we end up stronger individually and together after fighting through our battles. I'm sure many of you that are married out there would agree based on your own experiences.
And more than anything else, I miss the person that I can be completely comfortable with debating any topics, specifically controversial topics. We both know that even if either of us is "politically incorrect" we will still be loved in the end. Or even if one of us is a bit too emotional or perhaps selfish or prideful or maybe even judgemental, we know we will be loved in the end - even if some correction (hopefully gentle) is involved.
I didn't mean to write that much, but perhaps it's my way of paying tribute to my marriage covenant. Marriage is not easy, it's exponentially harder than I ever imagined it would be, but it certainly has made me understand better who God designed me to be and brought me closer to the Lord. I'm looking forward to Michael's homecoming...
1 comments:
Very sweet- fantastic planning on his part. :)
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